I realized I was at a new low when I caught myself googling “How to fake self-confidence”. And then reading the articles. I read an EHow article about it. I am not joking.
My biggest problem with “faking it until you make it” is that I have no idea what I’m supposed to fake. When I observe a confident person, I just see a magical glow of confidence. I can’t pick out specific behaviors and mimic them. I guess I’m not a very good psychologist. (Oops, there I go again, self-deprecating, awesome.)
So anyway, because I can’t seem to write a blog and not mention Tim Ferriss, here I go again. In his (fairly brilliant) book, The 4-Hour Work Week, Tim presents a series of (yes!) experiments that he calls “comfort challenges”. These are intended to “condition yourself to discomfort and overcome it”. I am going to do them. And then blog about it. And maybe it will do something for me, or at least be mildly entertaining.
The first one is as follows:
Learn to Eye Gaze (2 days)
For the next two days, practice gazing into the eyes of others — whether people you pass on the street or conversational partners — until they break contact.
If you catch me staring, this is why.
Any suggestions for other comfort challenges?